There are some "touchy" conversations I'd like to have a little later on in life with my children. You know, like the ones about "The Birds and the Bees." Ever since the boys had their bone marrow transplants, we were told there was a 99% possibility they wouldn't have children. That was hard news to take then, and harder still to think about how I'm going to tell my boys someday. How and when do you go about discussing this with your children?? Xander and I have talked about this and decided when they were old enough (say 18 give or take), we would have this talk. Well, that all changed as of yesterday.
We were all sitting around the table eating breakfast when out of the complete blue, Keane turned to Xander and said,"Daddy, will I be able to have children?" Floored, stunned, taken aback, and speechless are adjectives that perfectly described this moment for me. In complete elation, Xander handled it all AMAZINGLY WELL! He looked at me in surprise, before he said this...
"Keane, I'm not sure if you will ever have children, but you can always adopt children who need a loving home and don't have one of their own." Tears started to well up in Keane's eyes as he listened to Xander tell him of the possibility that he might not have kids of his own. Xander then reminded him, that with great FAITH, ALL things are possible. Of course, I was trying to keep my emotions from spilling out all over the breakfast table, but I just couldn't help it. The tears ran down my cheeks and I had to hide behind Ethan, who was fortunately, sitting on my lap. I didn't want Keane to see me cry over this because I knew it would upset him.
A moment of silence passed and Keane said, "Daddy, I have really GREAT FAITH and I know that someday Heavenly Father will bless me to have kids of my own."
Richard C. Edgely, said, "Choose faith over doubt, choose faith over fear, choose faith over the unknown and the unseen, and choose faith over pessimism.
A 1% chance to have kids is a daunting odd to face, especially for a 4 year old. But, I was grateful Xander handled it delicately. I'm especially grateful for Faith and the peace the spirit can bring. I know that with Faith, ALL things are possible. I certainly have 2 incredible miracles to remind me.
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Love you guys. And now I am going to go wipe my face before going back to my desk.
i can't believe little keane asked that...and his response. what a mature little guy. and xander is great. they have great examples of 2 parents with a lot of faith.
Oh it's killing me not to just come over there and smoosh you! That is such a beautiful moment. I'm so glad all of you were together and shared in it. Way to be Xander by the way! You two are so amazing and such incredible examples of faith overcoming fear. You know what? Odds schodds! I bet you guys haven't seen the last of miracles when it comes to those beautiful boys! I guess we will know in about.....20 years give or take? Love you and miss you every day!
So sweet. makes me cry too.
Oh how sweet! I realize more and more that you have to explain these sorts of things to kids when they are young - because really they want to understand. And even if the boys do end of adopting or using other methods to have kids - that doesn't mean that they won't have kids. It just means that they will do it the way Heavenly Father intended for them. Hugs to all, Julie
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